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The Bitcherella Syndrome!

In mid 2008 I made a decision to try to be more positive. Once I did that, I noticed two things: How negative my words were and how negative everyone else's words were. It made me (and still makes me, thus this post) wonder what is with our tendency to bitch about everything under the sun. Why, when things aren't going exactly right in our lives, do we feel a nearly uncontrollable need to tell everyone we come across how bad things are for us? And why is bitching so contagious? The boss at work overlooks your hard work and you don't get a promotion you feel you deserve. Fast forward to lunch where you're talking with a few co-workers about how badly you're being treated. Suddenly, the whole lot of you are trashing your boss and company.

Venting is a necessary thing in life. It's never good to keep negative feelings bottled up. I personally have one person who I vent to. I get the crap off my chest, then move on. What I've stopped doing is telling everyone under the sun everything going wrong in my life. Wanna know why? (Pssst...this is where things start getting woo woo) I honestly feel that falling prey to The Bitcherella Syndrome does nothing but put a lot of negative energy into the world. I also honestly believe that putting all that negative energy out draws more negative energy you and your life. Seriously. We all know a person nothing ever goes right for. One trouble after another seems to dog their steps. And it's not simply a season of bad. We've all experienced seasons of bad where everything that can go wrong, does, but for most of us these seasons don't last. We get through them and life again becomes enjoyable. But the person I'm talking about does not experience seasons of bad. Their entire life is one big season of bad. One thing after another goes wrong, and you start to wonder why this person can't get a break? Next time you come across this person, listen to how they talk. Listen to the words they say. I'll bet their words are a nearly continuous stream of negativity. They constantly talk about all that is wrong in their lives, how unhappy they are and how they don't think things are ever going to get better.  They are essentially putting nothing but negative energy out into the world and drawing nothing but negative energy back in. You don't have to take my word for it, listen to the things they say and the outcomes they have.

For me, it's paramount to maintain as positive a disposition as possible; even while going horribly tough times (and I've had my fair share). That is so much easier to say than to do, but it's well worth the effort. Staying positive won't make all of your problems disappear, but it will keep you out of the cycle of negativity so many people fall into. (See, told ya this was gonna get woo woo).

Okay, I'm getting off my soapbox now. =)

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