Heather Elizabeth King

Author of Dark Fiction

"I like you, just as you are" - Mark Darcy

When, in a relationship, does the time come to kick back, chillax and not worry about appearance? There are many differing opinions on this and I'm curious to hear what other people think. For me, I don't think there's ever a time to chillax and not worry about appearance. Actually, I don't think worry is a good word here. Consider is better. I don't think there's ever a time when one shouldn't consider their appearance. This, of course, doesn't include times of illness, sorrow or distress. In general, though, I don't think there's anything wrong with striving to look good for the person you're with.

Does this mean I don't think a man will love a woman, "just as she is" if she doesn't look hot 24/7. That depends on the individual. For most people, love is love, and when you fall in love you fall and begin to see that person through rose-colored glasses. Their flaws seem to miraculously diminish. I don't think it is--at least it shouldn't be--a matter of love. This should be the icing on an already scrumptious cake! It's wanting to be the woman your man fantasizes about; wanting to be his (can't think of a sexy woman who men fantasize about--maybe Carmen Electra...did I spell that right?!?) Carmen Electra. I want the man in my life to be excited about me on all levels, not just an emotional one. By the way, this doesn't include first thing in the morning. lol 

This does not take into account those goofy men out there who have completely unreal visual expectations of the women they are with. No female I know wants to walk around every day looking like a video vixen in 4 inch stilettos and stripper clothes!!!

So, what say you? Everyone has been of like mind on my previous posts, but I suspect there will be some differing opinions on this one. 

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