Heather Elizabeth King

Author of Dark Fiction

Way To Stay Positive #4

It's been a few weeks since my last positivity post. I figure this one is way past due.

This one is going to be short and sweet, because the principle is incredibly simple, although carrying it out can be difficult.

Positivity Step #4  - Shut up!!!

This one may seem obvious, but you'd be surprised how many times a day we do this. Do what? Bad mouth ourselves. Sometimes in passing, sometimes purposefully, too often we speak negatively about ourselves. Some of us say things about ourselves that we wouldn't dare say about another person.

You may think you never do it, but how many times have you been at work, frustrated because you couldn't accomplish a task and said, "I'm so stupid." or, "I can't do anything right." That kind of talk is toxic!

For us ladies, how many times has a man complimented you and instead of saying thank you, you run down a list of all your shortcomings. He says, "You look nice today." You say, "Usually my hair looks way better than this." "I was gonna wear different pants." "Serious? You're crazy!"

Why is it so hard to just say thank you to a compliment? Somehow we've been brainwashed to believe it's arrogance to think well of ourselves. If a person says they're good at something, suddenly they're conceited. But it's okay to constantly say, "I suck!"

I disagree. Having confidence is a long way from being conceited. We should have confidence in ourselves. That doesn't mean we have to tell everyone we come across how fantastic we are, but it does mean we have to stop putting ourselves down.

Positivity Step #4 can be easily summed up as: If you can't say anything good about yourself, don't say anything at all!

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