Being an Indie Author

How to Handle FAILURE!

This may come as a surprise, but everyone has failed. People who are at the top of their field, they all have failed.

  • Singer/songwriter, Sade, was turned down by numerous record companies. One record company rep told her to get out of the music business because he didn’t think she had a voice!
  • JK Rowling’s first Harry Potter book was turned down by every publisher she sent it to, until she finally found a home for it. And we all now how that turned out.
  • Oprah Winfrey was once fired from her job as a television news anchor. Can you imagine firing Oprah Winfrey?!?
  • Here are a few more examples. And you’ll notice that many of the people in the article didn’t just fail, they failed spectacularly.

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Truth is, failing is part of the process. Few people embark on a dream without failing a few times. Failing means you’re out there hustling. You’re working at reaching your goals. The only people who don’t fail are people who don’t try. They never risk making their dreams/goals a reality because they’re too afraid to risk failing, not realizing that failing is part of learning, part of improving, part of achieving and reaching their dreams/goals.

You may say, that’s all well and good, but how am I supposed to pick myself up and keep going after I fail because after I fail, I don’t know if I’m good enough to keep pursuing the thing I’m going after?

I can’t tell you whether your aspirations are valid or not. That’s something only you know the answer to. I can tell you what I’ve done when I’ve been faced with failure.

  1. I feel like absolute crap. I’m devastated, I cry, I have a full on pity party for myself. And there’s nothing wrong with doing this. Failing hurts. Let yourself feel the pain.
  2. I wonder if I’m on the right track. Major fails always make me question myself, my motives, and whether or not my aspirations are worth the struggle. When I’ve faced writing fails, the answer is always yes, writing is worth the struggle.
  3. I pick myself up and end the pity party. I look at my fail and try to figure out what I did wrong. Then I figure out what I could have done differently to get a different result.
  4. I get back to work.

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Failing doesn’t have to be the end of your dreams. It just means you may have gone down a wrong path. Take a look at things, reassess, then get back to work.

Remember, the only people who don’t fail are the people who don’t try.


Heather Elizabeth King is a novelist who lives in Virginia and writes paranormal mysteries. She's been a story teller since she can remember. Some of her favorite memories are of telling stories to her girlfriends at slumber parties when she was a pre-teen. Heather is a recipient of numerous book review awards, including: *The Gold Star Award from Just Erotic Romance Reviews *A Recommended Read from Fallen Angel Reviews *The Joyfully Recommended Award from Joyfully Reviewed *A CAPA Award nomination from The Romance Studio.

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